Stop Anticipating Tiredness

I overheard two men speaking. It was as if each person was trying to convince the other, and perhaps themselves, how many hours and how hard they were working, how few hours of sleep they were going to get, and, most of all, how tired they were going to be. I wasn’t quite sure if they were bragging or complaining, but one thing was certain, they were appearing more and more tired the longer the conversation continued.

The problem with anticipating tiredness in this way, or in any way, is that it clearly reinforces the tiredness. It rivets your attention to the number of hours you are sleeping and how tired you are going to be. Then, when you wake up, you are likely to do it again by reminding yourself how few hours it has been since your head hit the pillow. Who knows what really happens, but seems to me that anticipating tiredness must send a message to your brain reminding you to feel and act tired because that is the way you have programmed yourself to respond.

Clearly, everyone needs a certain degree of rest. I’ve read a few articles suggesting that many, if not most, of us don’t get enough sleep. And if you’re tired, the best possible solution would probably be to try to get more sleep. But in those instances when it’s not possible to do so, the worst thing you can do, in my estimation, is to convince yourself, in advance, that you are going to be exhausted.

I’ve noticed this habit of anticipating tiredness creep into the conversations of many people. If you are someone who does this, see if you can avoid the tendency as much as possible. If you do, you may find yourself feeling less tired.

Problems in Life

You can be annoyed by problems in life; think about how unfair and awful they are, complaining about them with others. You can remind yourself, over and over again, how difficult life is and how this problem is yet another justification for why you “have a right” to be upset! You can tighten up. Unfortunately, this is the way many people approach their problems.

When you think of your problems as speed bumps on a road, however, they begin to look very different. You’ll begin to expect a number of speed bumps to present themselves during a typical day. Like riding a bike, bumps are simply a part of the experience. You can fight and resist, or you can relax and accept.

As a problem shows up during your day, you can begin to say to yourself, “Ah, here’s another one.” Then, like the bump on your bike ride, you begin to relax into it, thereby absorbing the shock, making it seem less significant. Then you can calmly decide what action or decision is likely to get you over this hurdle in the most effective, graceful manner. The calmer and more relaxed you remain, the easier it is to remember & depend on the Lord. Lord will then guide what best you can do in a given situation or circumstance.

Lord Krishna says in Bhagavad-gita 18.58

If you become conscious of Me, you will pass over all the obstacles of conditioned life by My grace. If, however, you do not work in such consciousness but act through false ego, not hearing Me, you will be lost. (article from ISKCON)

Human Brain - Transcendence

Mind is like Pendulum, thoughts keeps on pouring from one thing to other.Human brain consist of two sides Called as Left Brain and Right Brain.

Left Brain is responsible for all logical, work, days activity, thoughts, relationship etc. As people say it's not every place you should be using your Left Brain.

Right Brain is more about nature, spiritual things & thoughts, Flower basically natural things which adds to it.

There are basically four states of Mind

1. Awake - {Fully Aware of things and you are Alert}

2. Deep Sleep - {Sleep; Here you are not aware of things }

3. Dreams - { Don't Remember and you aren't aware}

4. Transcendence - {It Fall between the Awake and Deep Sleep}

So when you are at transcendence you are at complete state of excelling, surpassing or going beyond usual limits.

Do not panic unnecessarily

People panic about practically everything—missed deadlines, orders not received, comments by others, fear of mistakes, negative trends. You name it and someone has panicked about it. Yet I’ve never seen even a single instance where the panic actually helped to solve the problem. Instead, panic is neutral at best and greatly interferes at worst. Panic tends to bring out the worst in everyone. It makes others (and you) feel tense and fearful. It increases the likelihood of mistakes, missed opportunities and miscommunications.

Nothing interferes with the creation of success and abundance like panic. When you make the commitment to stop panicking, you’ll notice some incredible things happening. First, you’ll notice that a vast majority of what you are most worried about will never happen, or it won’t be as bad as you first thought. It was Benjamin Franklin who said, “Some terrible things happened in my lifetime – a few of which actually happened.”

By avoiding the panic, you won’t waste time, anxiety, and energy trying to solve what probably doesn’t need solving. Second, when you learn to keep your bearings, your wisdom will come forth. In the absence of worry, answers will emerge. Instead of a head full of concerns, you’ll create a head full of solutions. Finally, when you stay calm, you really do bring out the best in others. Many people react to the feelings of others. If you can maintain your bearings, chances are the people you work with will, too.

To bring forth your greatest potential, eliminate panic altogether from your thinking.

Email - Etiquette

The Internet – specifically, e-mail—has done wonders to increase our capacity to communicate. With lightening speed, we can now write letters, share ideas and even close deals. The benefits are astonishing.

There’s a downside to e-mail, however, that’s important to be aware of. The problem is, it’s tempting, when you’re mad or upset; to fire off an e-mail that you might very well live to regret.

In a reactive or upset state of mind, or when you’re lacking judgment or perspective, it’s easy to act impulsively rather than with composure and wisdom. In the blink of an eye, you can confuse someone, hurt their feelings, enrage them, or even destroy a relationship.

The good news is, the flip side of this issue is also true. If you’re mad at someone and are tempted to share your feelings via e-mail – but you manage to resist – your restraint can pay enormous dividends.

Who knows how many relationships are ruined, or at least adversely affected, every day, by someone clicking “send” instead of simply walking away?

Some practical advice is this: Whenever possible, when you’re upset, refrain from sending e-mails. It’s dangerous territory. Instead, wait until you cool off. In the long run, you’ll maintain good relationships, and avoid unnecessary conflict.

Vaishno Devi Temple Trip (Jammu): Prem se bolo “Jai mata dee” Saare bolo “Jai mata dee”

An Unforgettable Trip to NorthIndia (Vaishno Devi Temple(jammu) ,Agra , Amritsar and Delhi)

After a planning from a long time, I and my friend packed our bags for our north trip.

There was so many places we had planned to visit, to our surprise we visited all the places except one.

It was really nice experience to view so many places and being so close to nature.

Jammu (24^th dec 2009) :We reached Jammu on 24th Dec 2009 , around noon. We just searced for tourist information on the railway station as our destination was katra , which was around 120 KM from Jammu station.

There were various option we got to reach to katra i.e Hriing taxi , private bus and government bus. We took a Govt bus which starts from the station itself. They charged Rs50 per head.So I was responsible to take care of luggage during travel and vijay my friend was trying to hold a window seat in the bus. And we both got our work done.

After 2 hours of journey we reached at katra, And got a room at niharika complex.

As the weather was cold in the evening so we decided to take rest on the same day and planned our trek next morning.

So early morning we started our trek to the vaishno devi temple , which was around 17 KM from our hotel. So we started around 8:30 am and reached at the top around 12:30 pm. As we followed the stairs to cut short our trek time. But swear , it was really tough trek with stairs. Atleast I was really tired and my friend was pretending that he was not tired, but I knew he was also equally tired. J

After having Vaishno mata dee darshan and get the blessing we started our next darshan was at Bhairo nath mandir and it was 2KM still above vaishno devi hill.

So finally we reached to bhairo nath the top most place on vaishno devi hill, I was fully tired n it could be seen clearly on my face. But I was so relaxed after reaching n seeing the hill , the view was really superb and it was really good to be so close to nature from daily chaos , very calm , you could see the peak of other mountain.

I wanted to stay there for some more time , but we wanted to reach down early before the cold waves starts. And Finally we reached from were we started to trek

With a great thoughts and blessings, I wish, I would revisit again with my family & friends again, and get the blessing of mata rani. Jai mata dee !!

Trip Important Inforamtion which I could gather and understood.

• The Vaishno Devi madir is opened for 365 days – 24 hours. Any time the devotee can head toward the darshan.
• Hotels – There are lot of hotels in katra , But I would really recommend the hotel niharika (Vaishno devi shrine board govt) is really good. It was our mere luck that that we got the room , as someone has cancelled there booking.
• Room at niharika was costing around Rs 450 non ac (12am- 12 pm) checkin.It was pretty neat, quite big and tidy bathroom and a big balcony.
• Even they had a dormitory which was also value neat, good and very reasonable rate. (Around rupees 60/- 12am-12pm).One more biggest advantage in staying this hotel is that , you don’t have to stand in the long queue for darshan ticket. I would strongly recommend about the Niharika hotel at katra, But please Book it in advance through internet at the vaishono devi temple website , otherwise very hard to get accommodation in it.
• Devotees can break their journey at ardhavkumari, book a room advance at ardhkavari. Please check their website for all the booking and other information.
• In summer its always advisable to start your trekking to mandir in night. So that it will be cold and u can enjoy the trek. In winter (nov-Feb) start your trek morning and come back in the night. Trek to mandir is around 14 KM.
• The time we took in trekking through stairs was around 4 hours and same for returning back ( Very tiring through stairs, though you can save 1 to 1.5 hours time) but you will missing lot of shops and sculptures and nature’s magnificant looks. I would recommended to go by normal roads then stairs.
• Don’t have to carry snacks/eatable during the trek , there are many shops n refreshment center on the way. I was surprise to see a Coffee day on the way.

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Dal Khichdi ........ My kitchen

Dal Kichdi

After years of thought Finally I agreed myself to learn some cooking , So great chef and my master was none other than My dearest mommy…. J

My first dish she explained me the delicious dal khichdi, which is easy to prepare , nutiritious ,cooks fast and taste superb J

So lets start with the Ingredient and then cooking procedure.

Ingredient :

1. Rice
2. Potato
3. Green peas – (Hara mutter) ( Refergerated Peas you can get in stores)
4. Raher Dal – (2 Mutha)
5. Garlic – 1+/Mirchi / Lehson

Cooking procedure:

1. Wash dal
2. Add dal + salt + haldi to cooker.
3. cook for few minute. You can stir from outside. (1/2 litre + dal)
4. Add Mutter + potato
5. Add (garlic+mirchi) paste
6. Add washed rice
7. Add salt – (3-4 small spoon ) – As per taste
8. Wait for (2-3) whistle from cooker.

So finally Dal khichdi is ready ,I got to taste first. how it is J he he he.

Dal khicdi can be served with pudina chutiney and onion raitha .

If anyone is trying this let me know how it was….this is truly the work of this author and his mom.

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